Be Proactive

emotional intelligence , book-notes , how igor ticks

I choose ‘.’ I am responsible for my own life ‘.’ My behavior is a function of my decisions, not my conditions ‘.’ I can subordinate feelings to values ‘.’ I have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen. These are my insights from 7 habits Chapter 1.

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Equanimity calm the mind

See ourselves - independent of feeling and mood and others

Make our own weather - can prefer it to be sunny, but should be able to generate own value without it

Carry a bubble of our own emotions

Respond don’t react

Create Time between stimulus and response

Freedom to choose the response

Two ends, action and consequence, pick action, get consequence

Be Proactive

Initiative - Our responsibility to make things happen

Act or be acted upon

Reactive vs Proactive Language - I have to vs I choose

Love verb vs noun

Love is a verb, it is something you do, even when it’s hard. It’s not a feeling. If it’s a feeling you’ll never find it. But, the verb you can always do.

CI/CC - Circle of Influence/Circle of Concern

Very similar to the concept of anxiety being ‘trying to control something’, and shifting the question to how can you maximize your influence.

Growing our CI

Keeping Commitments - our most valuable PC

Books