I choose ‘.’ I am responsible for my own life ‘.’ My behavior is a function of my decisions, not my conditions ‘.’ I can subordinate feelings to values ‘.’ I have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen. These are my insights from 7 habits Chapter 1.
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Equanimity calm the mind
See ourselves - independent of feeling and mood and others
Make our own weather - can prefer it to be sunny, but should be able to generate own value without it
Carry a bubble of our own emotions
Respond don’t react
Create Time between stimulus and response
Freedom to choose the response
Two ends, action and consequence, pick action, get consequence
Be Proactive
Initiative - Our responsibility to make things happen
Act or be acted upon
Reactive vs Proactive Language - I have to vs I choose
Love verb vs noun
Love is a verb, it is something you do, even when it’s hard. It’s not a feeling. If it’s a feeling you’ll never find it. But, the verb you can always do.
CI/CC - Circle of Influence/Circle of Concern
Very similar to the concept of anxiety being ‘trying to control something’, and shifting the question to how can you maximize your influence.
Growing our CI
Keeping Commitments - our most valuable PC
Books
- Flinch
- Turning Pro
- Art of War