Be a class act
Be a class act. Fantatic advice.
The practices
Seek first to understand
Be compassionate
Appreciate
Do something touching
Not quite the same, but pretty related
Other
- Never speak about someone behind their back what you wouldn’t say to their face.
- Why you want to dismiss others, feels good, feel superior, easy.
Great Examples
Not taking the bait.
Steve Jobs not being baited by an insult.
Bill Gates not being baited to complain about the government response to covid
- Interviewer: Trying to Stir a rage answer on why wasted on February
- Bill Gates: OK, we didn’t act, but the good news is “focus on productive action”
Everything Mr. Rogers does
Being a leader
This chef as he praises other, focuses on the customer, trains other. And the respect he is commanded as a result - so good…
Affirmations: Every day I write out my affirmations. These positive statements help me challenge and overcome my self-sabotaging and negative thoughts and behaviors. Repeating them reinforces them, helping me be the person I want to be. My affirmations have power to me and have evolved over time. You’ll want to find the ones that speak best to you. Oh and bonus points if beyond just writing out your daily affirmations you reflect on how you can/will and have applied them.
Isn't that curious: Lead with curiosity, not judgment. This applies to yourself and to others. Think of a grandmother - a grandmother is full of love and compassion for her grandchildren. She loves them without conditions, no strings attached.She takes care of her grandchildren without needing anything in return. She cares selflessly and she has only the children’s best interest in mind. As she loves her grandchildren, she won’t allow self-destructive behavior and will step in when necessary. But she will always do this with the utmost care and love.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood: Imagine going to the eye doctor. After hearing your complaint he takes off his glasses and hands them to you.
“Put these on,” he says. “I’ve worn this pair of glasses for ten years now and they’ve really helped me. I have an extra pair at home; you can wear these.” So you put them on, but it only makes the problem worse. “This is terrible!” you exclaim. “I can’t see a thing!” “Well, what’s wrong?” he asks. “They work great for me. Try harder.” “I am trying,” you insist. “Everything is a blur.” “Well, what’s the matter with you? Think positively.” “Okay. I positively can’t see a thing.” “Boy, are you ungrateful!” he chides. “And after all I’ve done to help you!”
Things that make me cry: It’s pretty easy to be overwhelmed by humanity sucking, but there is so much good in the world. Here are some great examples
Appreciate: Think of the last time you were appreciated: How did you feel? Think about the last hour: How many things could you have appreciated? It takes 7 positive experiences to make up for 1 negative experience - what can you appreciate?
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