Religion: Losing belief while seeing value
I did my Bar Mitzvah at the Wailing Wall in Israel — the holiest place in Judaism. We flew there as a family, and I still remember stepping off the plane and feeling an intense warmth. I turned to my sister and whispered, “I can feel God.” She rolled her eyes and said, “That’s not God. That’s forty degrees Celsius.”
- My story
- The Hard Parts for Me
- What Is God Anyway?
- Some bible verses I really like
- Appendix and stuff I’m working in …
My story
How I Became a Man at 13
I grew up in a small town, with a conservative synagogue. Services were always in Hebrew — a language my dad didn’t know, and neither did I. But hearing the words week after week, we memorized the prayer songs by repetition. To me, the words were gobbledygook, but the melodies stuck.
Every Friday night we would walk to services. My dad didn’t believe in God, but he loved the synagogue. For him it wasn’t about belief; it was about community. Because the congregation was small, they often struggled to gather the ten men needed for certain prayers. Most weeks the phone would ring, and they’d ask him to come. We lived just five minutes away, so he always did.
When you’re Jewish, turning thirteen means becoming a man — you study the Torah and have a Bar Mitzvah. My grandparents had immigrated to Israel, so when it was my turn, we flew there. It was my first time on a plane. I had my Bar Mitzvah at the Wailing Wall in Jerusalem, the most holy place in Judaism. Standing there, surrounded by history and prayer, made it unforgettable.
When Proof Became My Religion
I am an engineer: science, cause and effect, proof. If you can’t measure it, model it, or test it, you don’t trust it. No proof, no belief. Stories without evidence - bugs in the system. Miracles? Not reproducible. God? No causal mechanism. The whole thing looked like bad engineering.
Why would I build my life on something that couldn’t even pass a basic test plan?
What I didn’t see then was that religion doesn’t live or die on proof — it lives in practice.
The Day I valued Religion
Just a normal day at work, the phone rang out of the blue. “Igor, please sit down.” My dad was dead. I had no idea what to do, but my synagogue — basically the Jewish version of a church — did. In Judaism, the dead are buried quickly, usually within 24 hours, so there’s no time to get lost in indecision. You just follow the steps.
At the funeral, the rabbi put a tie around my neck, and cut it. Why did that feel important? Who knows, who cares — it just did. Then the congregation sang a song. Even though it was in Hebrew, gobbledygook to me, I remembered the melody from before. It was incredibly comforting, it was right. I just knew everyone was there, supporting me.
At the graveyard, when we were putting him into the ground, I could see the names of his friends from my Bar Mitzvah days on the gravestones beside him. I could picture him laughing with them, and knowing he was with his friends gave me a sense of peace.
Then came shiva, the seven days of mourning. A candle burned the whole time, a quiet reminder that life had paused. For a week, people came, prayed, sat with us. At the end, the candle went out, and the expectation was to begin stepping back into the world. Not to “move on,” but to take a step forward.
After that came shloshim, the thirty days of softer mourning, and later, yahrzeit, the annual prayer and candle to remember. These rituals stretched out across time, creating a rhythm of grief and remembrance.
What I valued most was the certainty of what to do. I didn’t have to ask, “Am I grieving right?” The protocol answered that. And being in community meant I wasn’t alone. Major life events stopped feeling like cruel surprises — I could see that others had walked this path before me.
That was the day religion showed its worth to me: not in metaphysics, but in structure and support when I needed them most.
When someone important to me found god.
I won’t list their name out of privacy, but in my deep respect for this person I had to really dig into god, I went to a few sermons live, and this person started reading a daily devotional, and so did I.
Some observations I’ve had:
- There are many different religions, with deeply different beliefs
- Much of the interpretation is that of a self help book, instead of the classic format I’m used to “build a model and describe it”, “several anecdote stories”, “1 chapter per story”, the bible stuff I’m exposed to starts with a really old verse, then has a bunch of interpretation.
The Hard Parts for Me
Proof
The problem is proof. I don’t see it. With an engineering mindset, I expect cause, effect, and data — and religion doesn’t give me that. The parts about burning in hell are especially hard to accept. If I can’t see it, measure it, or reason my way to it, it doesn’t land.
To be fair, there are things I accept as good even though the only evidence is personal and experiential. Bringing joy makes me feel happy, so I keep doing it. Gratitude practices lift my mood, even if I can’t prove why. Not everything needs to be double-blind tested to matter.
An incredibly good discussion on belief (easily applied to religion), hidden in a discussion of psychics between the host and Dan Harris. I highly, highly recommend (and much better than the Search engine on religion for the parts that pertain to belief). Search Engine - The Psychic Question
- While I think the tarot people are wrong, they frankly throw much better parties than the fact checkers. So there’s that. But then you spend enough time around the believers and sometimes you feel your own killjoyness more acutely, like you’re on a diet or fasting for reasons nobody else quite understands. Wouldn’t it be nicer to just give in?
- Open is better than closed, right? Fluid is better than rigid. People who are too sure of themselves tend to be alienating to others.
- Dan is somebody who tries not to believe in stories just because they’re comfortable. He doesn’t usually get his aura read. He’s not religious. He does meditate, and he’s Buddhist enough that I’ve heard him use words like dharma in casual conversation. The story Dan tells himself, though, is that he came to Buddhism because he followed the evidence for it, which I’m sure is true, although I also think most of us decide what to believe, at least partly socially. It’s much easier to surrender to an idea if we admire the people who already hold it, if they seem happy, smart, if they fit our arbitrary thumbnail sketch of a wise person.”
- As Dan and I kept talking over the months, I’d noticed how many stories he had about his teachers, memories of the lessons he’d learned by observing them. It’s such a funny thing that happens in the human heart, this decision that you’re going to become somebody’s student, surrender to their ideas or habits
Hypocrisy
The problem is hypocrisy. Religion has plenty of examples of evil done in its name, or leaders exploiting faith for personal gain. To be fair, that isn’t unique to religion — some people are just shitty and will exploit whatever they can.
To be fair, I’ve also seen religion call people to their best selves. In community, people often act with generosity and service, not exploitation. That doesn’t erase the bad, but it balances it.
Pushiness
The problem is pushiness. Again, not unique to religion, but easy to see there. If someone really believes they hold the greatest gift in the world, of course they want to share it. If someone thinks they’re protecting you, of course they’ll try to stop you from doing something dangerous. I get the intent, but it can feel suffocating.
To be fair, I’ve been pushy too. When I care deeply, I want to convince people. If I believe something makes life better, I share it — sometimes too strongly. So I get where the impulse comes from, even if I don’t like being on the receiving end.
Arbitrariness & Literalism
The problem is arbitrariness. I struggle with random literal interpretations, absolute faith, and the inability to question. It feels like being asked to accept rules without context, as if the meaning is locked and you’re not allowed to ask why.
To be fair, I can see the upside. If we really did have a universal standard, there would be no argument about morality. Everyone would know where the lines are, and that certainty would be a relief. It’s also comforting not to have to figure everything out on your own — sometimes having the rules spelled out is easier than reinventing the code of life from scratch.
What Is God Anyway?
When I read devotionals each morning, I keep trying to do a mental find-and-replace - if I swap out “God” with something secular, what word would I use? “Universe” feels like a cop-out. “Myself” doesn’t capture it either. Then it hit me: I can’t do a simple find-and-replace because God isn’t one thing - God is doing ten different jobs simultaneously: source of confidence, moral framework, community identifier, ritual designer. Religious people get all of that in one package. Secular people have to cobble together ten different solutions from ten different sources. But here’s the twist: religious people face their own cobbling challenge. With conflicting scriptures, denominations, and interpretations, how do they know THEIR understanding of God is correct? And what makes their path actually different from mine?
The many meanings of God
When I read devotionals and replace “God” with a secular concept, I realize God serves multiple roles simultaneously. Here are the main ones I’ve identified, with both religious and secular wisdom for each:
Summary: The Ten Roles God Serves
| Category | Role | What It Provides | Religious Approach | Secular Approach |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| FOUNDATION (Who You Are) | ||||
| Unconditional Love | Feel fundamentally okay without performing | God’s everlasting love | Self-compassion, inherent worth | |
| Confidence & Resilience | Bone-deep certainty that I’ll be okay | God’s faithfulness and strength | Self-efficacy and growth mindset | |
| Inner Peace | Place to stop striving and just be | “Be still and know” | Meditation, flow states | |
| PERSPECTIVE (How You See the World) | ||||
| Cosmic Perspective | Relief from tyranny of small anxieties | God’s eternal view | Pale blue dot, memento mori | |
| Locus of Control | Stop carrying weight of uncontrollable outcomes | Trust in God’s plan | Serenity prayer, Stoicism | |
| DIRECTION (How You Choose) | ||||
| Mission & Values | North Star that doesn’t shift with opinions | God’s kingdom and righteousness | Know thyself, authentic values | |
| Moral Framework | Clear answers without rebuilding ethics | Biblical commandments | Kant, virtue ethics, utilitarianism | |
| Spiritual Guide | Access to wisdom beyond my own | Prayer and scripture | Therapy, mentors, philosophy | |
| PRACTICE (How You Live Day-to-Day) | ||||
| Ritual Design | Know what to do for major life events | Religious ceremonies and sabbath | Intentional habits and traditions | |
| Community Identity | Instantly find my people anywhere | Church/synagogue/mosque | Values-based communities |
Below, I explore each role in depth with specific examples of both religious and secular wisdom, organized by these four levels:
FOUNDATION: Who You Are
Unconditional Love: To feel fundamentally okay even when I’m not achieving, producing, or performing.
| Religious Wisdom | Secular Wisdom |
|---|---|
| “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God” (Romans 8:38-39) | “You yourself, as much as anybody, deserve your love” - Buddha |
| “The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing” (Zephaniah 3:17) | “There is nothing you need to do to be worthy” - Carl Rogers |
| “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness” (Jeremiah 31:3) | “You are enough” - Brené Brown |
Confidence & Resilience: The bone-deep certainty that I’ll be okay, even when everything feels overwhelming.
| Religious Wisdom | Secular Wisdom |
|---|---|
| “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear” (1 Corinthians 10:13) | “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” - Nietzsche |
| “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13) | “Whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right” - Henry Ford |
| “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you” (Joshua 1:9) | “Courage is not the absence of fear, but acting in spite of it” |
Inner Peace: A place to stop striving and just be, without guilt or anxiety about what I should be doing.
| Religious Wisdom | Secular Wisdom |
|---|---|
| “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth” (Psalm 46:10) | “Meditation reduces anxiety” - neuroscience research |
| “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28) | “The answer to the agitation is stillness” - Ryan Holiday |
| “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7) | “Flow states” - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi |
PERSPECTIVE: How You See the World
Cosmic Perspective: Relief from the tyranny of small anxieties that feel huge in the moment.
| Religious Wisdom | Secular Wisdom |
|---|---|
| “When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is mankind that you are mindful of them?” (Psalm 8:3-4) | “Pale blue dot” - Carl Sagan |
| “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts” (Isaiah 55:9) | “Sub specie aeternitatis” - from the perspective of eternity (Spinoza) |
| “Meaningless! Meaningless! says the Teacher. Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless” (Ecclesiastes 1:2) | “Memento mori” - remember you will die |
Locus of Control: To stop carrying the crushing weight of believing I control outcomes I don’t.
| Religious Wisdom | Secular Wisdom |
|---|---|
| “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” (Proverbs 3:5) | “Grant me serenity to accept what I cannot change” - Serenity Prayer |
| “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7) | “Amor fati” - love your fate (Stoicism) |
| “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light” (Matthew 11:28-30) | “The obstacle is the way” - Marcus Aurelius |
DIRECTION: How You Choose
Mission & Values: A North Star that doesn’t shift based on whose opinion is loudest today.
| Religious Wisdom | Secular Wisdom |
|---|---|
| “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2) | “The person who follows the crowd will go no further than the crowd” |
| “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe” (Proverbs 29:25) | “What other people think of me is none of my business” |
| “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you” (Matthew 6:33) | “Know thyself” - Socrates |
Moral Framework: Clear answers to “is this right or wrong?” without having to rebuild ethics from first principles every time.
| Religious Wisdom | Secular Wisdom |
|---|---|
| “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets” (Matthew 7:12) | “Act only according to maxims you’d want to be universal law” - Kant |
| “Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these” (Mark 12:31) | “We are pattern-seeking, social primates” - Sam Harris |
| “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God” (Micah 6:8) | “Virtue ethics” - Aristotle |
Spiritual Guide: Access to wisdom greater than my own when I’m stuck or confused.
| Religious Wisdom | Secular Wisdom |
|---|---|
| “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you” (Matthew 7:7) | “Therapy is cheaper than divorce” |
| “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out” (Proverbs 20:5) | “We can’t read the label from inside the jar” |
| “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed” (Proverbs 15:22) | “Strong opinions, weakly held” - learn and update |
PRACTICE: How You Live Day-to-Day
Ritual Design: To know exactly what to do when life throws major events at me, without having to invent everything from scratch.
| Religious Wisdom | Secular Wisdom |
|---|---|
| “Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is a sabbath to the Lord your God” (Exodus 20:8-10) | “Habit is second nature” - Aristotle |
| “Give us today our daily bread” (Matthew 6:11) | “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit” - Will Durant |
| “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate” (Mark 10:9) | “Rituals mark transitions and build meaning” |
Community Identity: To walk into any city and know where to find my people, instantly.
| Religious Wisdom | Secular Wisdom |
|---|---|
| “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them” (Matthew 18:20) | “We need people who share our values” |
| “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” (Proverbs 27:17) | “You are the average of the five people you spend time with” - Jim Rohn |
| “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2) | “Social connection is a fundamental human need” - psychology |
The Secular Challenge of having to cobble together your own god
Without a religious framework, you face the burden of construction. Look at that list above - ten fundamental roles that religion fills with one answer: God. As a secular person, I need ten different sources, ten different practices, ten different communities.
How do I know my ethics are right? What gives me confidence when everything is uncertain? Where do I find community? What rituals mark important transitions? Should I follow Stoicism or Buddhism or just wing it? Is my meditation practice actually helping or am I just sitting quietly convincing myself it matters?
The work is exhausting: reading philosophy, testing practices, iterating on what works, constantly second-guessing. Did I choose the right framework? Am I missing something important? There’s no instruction manual, no authoritative voice saying “this is the way.”
Every major decision becomes a research project. Every value requires justification. Every ritual feels slightly made-up because, well, it is.
The stress isn’t just about doing the work - it’s about never knowing if you got it right. Religious people can say “God says so” and move on. I’m stuck with “well, based on my reading of philosophy and my personal experience and the limited research I could find, I think maybe this approach…”
That uncertainty is exhausting.
The Religious Challenge of having to cobble together your own god
At first glance, religion seems easier - the “word of God is defined.” But is it really?
Consider the conflicts:
- Between religions (Christianity vs Judaism vs Islam vs Buddhism)
- Between sects (Catholic vs Protestant vs Orthodox, Sunni vs Shia)
- Between interpretations (literal vs metaphorical, conservative vs progressive)
- Within scripture itself (contradictory verses, unclear guidance)
So religious people face their own cobbling challenge: How do I know MY interpretation of God’s will is correct?
The answer I keep hearing: “I can feel it” or “I feel God’s touch” or “The Holy Spirit guides me.” But wait - isn’t that the same as my secular approach? I test things, see what works, trust my experience. They pray, see what feels right, trust their spiritual sense.
So what’s actually different?
Looking at both paths, they have surprising similarities. Both require:
- Interpretation - making sense of conflicting inputs
- Experiential testing - does this work in my life?
- Community validation - do others I respect agree?
- Ongoing refinement - updating as you learn
But there are real differences:
Confidence vs Uncertainty: Religious people have confidence in their framework because it’s backed by divine authority. Secular people are stuck with uncertainty because we know we’re making it up as we go.
Support Infrastructure: Religious people have massive support systems for asking and answering life’s big questions - weekly services, religious education, clergy who’ve dedicated their lives to these questions, thousands of years of texts, and a community expectation that you should wrestle with meaning. Secular people get self-help books and the occasional philosophical movie. There’s no weekly gathering to ask “what’s the good life?” together. No secular equivalent of a rabbi whose job is helping you think through ethics and meaning.
Which is better? I honestly don’t know. The confidence sounds incredible - to just know you’re right. The support system sounds amazing. But I can’t manufacture that confidence. My engineer brain won’t let me stop questioning.
How I’m Cobbling Mine Together
When I consider religious texts, I do this mental translation exercise:
- “God has a plan for you” → “Stay true to your eulogy virtues”
- “Trust in God” → “Focus on maximizing influence, not controlling outcomes”
- “God will provide” → “The universe is generally abundant if you’re resourceful”
- “Pray without ceasing” → “Regular gratitude and reflection practice”
- “God loves you unconditionally” → “Practice self-compassion, you’re doing your best”
Sometimes the translation feels clunky. Sometimes I wonder if I’m missing something profound by not just accepting the original. The devotional will say something beautiful about resting in God’s love, and I’ll think “that sounds amazing” - and then my brain immediately goes to “but how do I operationalize that without the God part?”
It’s like trying to run Windows software on a Linux machine - constant compatibility issues, constant translation layers, never quite sure if you’re getting the full experience.
But this is my path: taking wisdom where I find it, translating it into language that works for my engineer brain, testing whether it makes my life better. The cobbling feels messy and uncertain compared to the clean certainty of “God said it, I believe it.”
Some bible verses I really like
While I struggle with literal belief, I’ve found certain verses capture truths about how to live well. They’re less about theology and more about practical wisdom - the kind that holds up whether you believe in God or not.
Don’t take Faith Blindly
- Proverbs 14:15 - “The simple believes everything, but the prudent gives thought to his steps.”
- 1 Thessalonians 5:21 - “But test everything; hold fast what is good.”
- 1 John 4:1 - “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.”
Be Tolerant Of Others
- Matthew 7:1 - “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.”
- Matthew 7:12 - “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”
- Galatians 3:28 - “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
- Romans 14:10 - “You, then, why do you judge your brother or sister? Or why do you treat them with contempt? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat.”
- Romans 14:13 - “Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.”
Be Deliberate, Disciplined, Daily
- Proverbs 25:28 - “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.”
- 1 Corinthians 9:27 - “But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.”
- Hebrews 12:11 - “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”
Do the work
- 2 Thessalonians 3:10 - “For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: ‘The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.’”
- Proverbs 13:4 - “Lazy people want much but get little, but those who work hard will prosper.”
- Colossians 3:23 - “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.”
Others I like and need to categorize
- Proverbs 27:17 - “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
Appendix and stuff I’m working in …
Why Religion?
Religions persist because they solve hard coordination problems: transmitting values across generations, creating social trust, and providing meaning under uncertainty. They encode “do this, not that” as embodied wisdom, not just abstract rules. My interest is pragmatic: learn from what works, name what harms, keep the parts that build resilient, prosocial humans.
Belief vs Practice
The modern debate over belief often misses the power of practice. You don’t have to resolve every metaphysical claim to benefit from disciplined rituals: weekly reflection, shared meals, service, confession/repair, sabbath-style rest. Practice shapes identity through repetition; belief often follows behavior.
Secular Spirituality
You can pursue awe, humility, gratitude, and service without formal religion. Meditation, nature, art, and shared work provide many of the same psychological benefits when practiced intentionally. The question isn’t “religious or not,” but “what practice reliably opens you to meaning while keeping you kind?”
Am I really a Christian? 14 Signs
This comes from an ancient Christian text by Fastidius the Briton (5th century), which defines what it means to truly be a Christian. The core argument: names derive from actions. A Christian must demonstrate Christian conduct, not merely bear the title.
This isn’t just about Christians - these are exactly my ethics. See how they map to my affirmations:
A class act: First Understand. Appreciate. Isn’t that Curious
Sign 1: Be merciful to all. Not just to people you like, but to everyone. We all need mercy - patient, understanding, gentle, forgiving. The question isn’t whether others deserve mercy, but whether you can offer it as freely as you hope to receive it.
Sign 3: Give aid to the poor. Not just the materially poor, but those poor in tenderness, companionship, love, kindness, and basic dignity. We’re all poor in some way. The sin isn’t being unable to help everyone - it’s indifference, being too self-absorbed to see the neighbor right next to you who needs help.
Sign 4: Suffer with the afflicted. Before trying to fix problems, see the person. Imagine you’re going through the exact same thing they are. Compassion means “with suffering” - just be there with their suffering. Then figure out solutions together.
Sign 5: Participate in others’ sorrows as though they were your own. Let’s go find each other’s crosses and bear one another’s burdens. When you see others carrying problems, don’t just observe - fly to help.
Sign 6: Be an open door to the unhappy. Be the kind of person where anyone feels comfortable coming, where they can leave feeling a little more special, a little more loved, a little happier. Is your door mostly closed?
Sign 7: Don’t insult anymore. Take a mental note of how many times you insult, mock, criticize, judge, or make fun of somebody throughout a day. Not just out loud - in your mind, under your breath, where only you and maybe God hears. When insulted, respond with no insult. If you say anything, answer gently.
Calm like water: Be Present. This too shall pass. Work the problem
Sign 2: Don’t get angry over small injuries. How you react to every little annoyance is a barometer for your soul. Getting super irritated or flying off the hook over small things are symptoms that something is off inside. Your reaction is a choice.
Sign 13: Rest your spirit and place your hope in something beyond yourself. In times of desolation, where do you turn? Try this: take whatever is giving you anxiety or stress, hold it in your heart, then release it. Hand it over. Say “I know you can handle this, let your will be done” - then say nothing else and rest. We waste so much time and energy overthinking. This takes tremendous trust, but it’s the way to peace.
Do It Anyways: Deliberate. Disciplined. Daily
These could be essentialist, but putting them here for some balance.
Sign 8: Serve what you love most. Who or what do you worship day and night? When you look back, what’s the one thing you’ve traded your life for? We serve who we love the most.
Sign 9: Continuously meditate on your ways. What occupies your mind throughout the day? Following any path well means choosing it daily, and to choose to follow someone, you first have to get to know them.
An essentialist: Know Essential. Provide Context. Prioritize Ruthlessly
Sign 10: Be poor in the eyes of the world but rich in the eyes of what matters. There’s a certain way to live that’s very pleasing to the world, and a certain way that’s pleasing to deeper values - and they don’t always align. Sometimes they’re exact opposites. When vilified, bless. When persecuted, endure. When slandered, answer gently. When the world rolls their eyes, respond with goodness.
Sign 11: Keep your soul simple and upright. If you look inside a simple soul, you only find three things: goodness, love, and truth. An upright soul stands up for these three things. If your soul is off, you’ll feel it as deep emptiness or restlessness. If it’s good, you’ll feel peace.
Sign 12: Keep your conscience faithful and pure. Your conscience is that thing deep down that lets you know whether what you’re thinking, doing, or have done is good or bad. A pure conscience echoes only what’s right. A faithful conscience listens. The more you ignore it, the weaker it gets, opening the door for other voices. Ask yourself: Who is my conscience faithful to? Am I faithful to my conscience?
Sign 14: Prefer eternal treasures to temporary ones. If you had a choice between all the treasure the world has to offer and all the treasure that truly matters, which would you choose? Which brings more peace, which more anxiety? Which leads to freedom, which to slavery? Which do you strive for with all your being? Which can you rely on more? Where your treasure is, your heart will be - and it can’t be in two places at once.
Original Latin text (from Migne’s Patrologia Latina Vol. 50): Ancient Christian text by Fastidius the Briton (5th century).
English translation (Sister Mary Sarah Muldowney, R.S.M., Ph.D., The Fathers of the Church vol. 16, Catholic University of America Press, 1952):
Let us not flatter ourselves in the mere fact that we are called Christians; rather, let us believe that we deserve to be judged if we assume a name to which we have no claim.
Or, if anyone is so unbelieving, so unfaithful, so persistent, so obstinate, so bold, that he does not fear the imminent anger and indignation of God the judge, let him at least feel abashed before human judgments. Let him realize how dull, how foolish, and how senseless he is considered even by other people, since his vanity and madness are so great that he takes upon himself a name to which he is not entitled.
For, who is so conceited and so pitiable that he would dare to establish himself as a lawyer if he is uneducated? Who is so mad and bereft of reason that he would proclaim himself a soldier if he does not know how to use arms? One does not choose such a name without reason. To be called a cobbler, one must repair shoes; to be looked upon as an artisan or workman, one must produce proof of his art; to be recognized as a trader, one exhibits costly objects originally purchased at a smaller price. From examples of this sort we realize that there is no name without the corresponding act and, furthermore, that every name is derived from the antecedent act.
Now, then, are you called a Christian when you perform no distinctively Christian acts? The name Christian connotes justice, goodness, integrity, patience, chastity, prudence, humility, kindliness, innocence, and piety; how do you defend your assumption of that name when your conduct manifests so few out of so many virtues?
He is truly a Christian who is one not in name only but also in deed; who imitates and follows Christ in all respects; who is holy, innocent, undefiled, chaste; in whose heart evil finds no room, since this heart is dominated by piety and by a goodness which, knowing only how to bring help to all, knows not how to harm or injure anybody. He is a Christian who, according to the example of Christ, is accustomed to do good to those who oppose him and to pray for his persecutors and his enemies rather than to hate them. Whoever is quick to hurt or harm another person lies when he calls himself a Christian; he is truly a Christian who can say in all honesty: ‘I have harmed nobody; I have lived in justice with all men.’